Texting isn’t the answer… It’s a tool!

On a cold foggy day with a cup of tea in hand reading through an email about texting. It occurred to me how much we often do this rather big habit, that we’ve come to have so readily accepted into our lives.

In the dating world there’s a plethora of “guru’s” who shill out the latest “here’s how to turn a woman /man on via text” pdf/course etc (I’ve spent a good chunk of time buying or finding and using them myself)

The thing is there’s no set of magic text(s) that work on all people, yes there are frameworks of texts that work.

I’ve spent 12 yrs accidently creating one such type of framework. See I have a small stack of texts that sometimes I’ll use on a woman I am talking with. (These stack of texts aren’t the usual canned crap, they’re something I specifically created while writing an off hand story)

Sometimes they work, other times they don’t. It all depends on two factors, these are: What is happening in the conversation and the mood the person is in (You can apply the framework when talking in person as well)

You can gear the mood/conversation in a specific direction with this framework, but you got to take it slow (not too slow, yet not too fast either) ask what I call is a Guiding Question (others call it an open ended question)